The Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission | Suicide - Survivors | Comments http://erlc.com/ This feed provides all comments on "Suicide - Survivors." en web-master@erlc.com ℗ & © 2008 ERLC Comment 1 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment1 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment1 I am grateful for this resource. I lost my 15 year old daughter over 10 years ago. She shot herself in the woods behind her grandparents house. It was and still is unbelievable to think my daughter chose to end her own life. I have been revising a book of poems in memory of Jessica. The poems could possibly help others who have endured something of this magnitude. I was wondering if I could share one or two with a larger audience?

Also, your stages of grief are so accurate, although we all grieve differently and some of us take longer to heal or deal I should say with this type of loss.

Thank you for listening.

]]> Fri, 17 Aug 2007 12:49:57 CST Comment 2 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment2 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment2 We also lost our son (16) to suicide.  He hung himself in our home.  My husband found him.  This happened almost four months ago.  I have experienced many of the stages of grief, some more than once.  In the end (not that there will be an “end” of the grief, just a final result) I believe with my entire being that Joe’s death was meant to draw me and others closer to God.  Joe knew Jesus.  Joe just experienced a moment in his life where his agony over being epileptic and having a failing brain overtook him and he chose to end his life on earth.  I believe in the goodness and grace of God Almighty.  I believe He is a just God.  I believe He is the ONLY God.  I believe He has NO beginning and NO end.  I believe that Joe went immediately to heaven, and will be part of my welcome wagon when I arrive.  I will serve the Lord faithfully until the day He takes me home. 

I love Joe, but God loves him more.

]]> Sun, 30 Sep 2007 10:49:24 CST Comment 3 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment3 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment3 My Father took his life at 60.Jan 15,2007 I still find it hard to get rid of the preoccupation w/the loss. He served his country for 20 yrs as a Marine. A Vetietnam Vet. I was blessed to have both Mom & Dad.  My guilt is how my Mom & I have changed.I am lost & dont know how to deal with this. I also find it hard to have any feelings of angery for his choice. He had a hard life & it was taking its toll on his body. Any suggestions/places to go I would appreciate it He served & beleived in his country. My Dad was an amazing man. I was his 1 & only daughter. He made sure I could handle myself. I am so lost & into myself.I have a Mom that I can’t even help..she has lost the man she married & loved for 40 yrs. Their annivesery is next week. To me my Dad is the world & well my world is crumbling. I need to ease the pain the void find that small piece of joy in life again w/out him. Thank you for your time in reading this & if you have suggestions please let me know Daddy’s Girl Semper FI

]]> Wed, 13 Aug 2008 23:02:38 CST Comment 4 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment4 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment4 What city and state are you in?  Maybe someone on here can help direct you to a good Church where they can answer some of the questions you have.

]]> Mon, 18 Aug 2008 09:56:37 CST Comment 5 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment5 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment5 My mom was suffering from ovarian cancer and had been doing chemo for over a year.  There was no end to the treatment in sight.  She shot herself last night, while my dad was downstairs.  I realize her pain is gone.  I appreciate the information here on what I should expect for my dad and myself.  I believe there is a God and he will welcome her because there isn’t a single person alive or passed that can ever measure up to who my mom was.  I hope I can be at least half as good of a person as she was.

]]> Tue, 02 Sep 2008 11:12:21 CST Comment 6 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment6 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment6 Debi - My heart goes out to you and your father.  Just be ready to not be ready for any of the feelings that you and he will be having.  One momment you will be so ok with the fact that she is no longer in pain and then within seconds it may switch to a horrible empty feeling that I have only heard about never experienced until it happened.  I am not sure I am the one to give advice as each person will go thru everything totally different.  I wish your strength!!  My Mom found comfort in things I do not and vice versa....please feel free to contact me if nothing else just to vent.  It is hard talking to others that have lost but not to suicide.

]]> Tue, 02 Sep 2008 14:46:57 CST Comment 7 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment7 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment7 20 years ago my friend’s wife killed herself. His oldest son blamed him and never spoke to him for 3 years.  Through the years the relationship has changed, but the son made his Dad pay for his house, swimming pool, vacations, and now his oldest son college tuition. If my friend doesn’t pay, then the son talkes horribly to him, bringing on major guilt and depression.  He is afraid of losing his youngest grandchild if he doesn’t pay for the things the son wants.  The oldest grandchild that is in college is a carbon copy of his Father.. all he wants is money from his grandfather. The daughter-in-law is no help, she likes the lifestyle she lives in and will not go against her husband.
Can you give me something to tell him that would help the situation?

]]> Fri, 10 Oct 2008 19:45:44 CST Wed, 05 Nov 2008 21:07:35 CST Comment 8 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment8 http://erlc.com/article/suicide-survivors#comment8 I lost my son on march 8th, 2007. He was just 19 yrs. old. He would have been 20 on May 3rd of that yr. He hung himself in the front garage. He had ADHD & had been depressed over his relationship with his girlfriend. Right now, to me, time has stood still, like it had been yesterday. It’s been very hard on me & I often wonder if I will make it past this. I’m angry, very much so & I hope that this will pass in time as I’m sure it will. I believe that he is with Christ now, which is a comfort to me.

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