How can I teach my kids about race and racial unity?

A roundtable discussion

June 3, 2020

Trillia Newbell is the director of community outreach at the ERLC.

Timothy Paul Jones is a professor and associate vice president at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.

Erica Ho is a wife, mom, and the community coordinator at One Orphan.

Lindsay Nicolet: As children witness instances of racism, how would you help them understand and process what they are seeing? 

Trillia Newbell: I think it starts with them understanding the basics of our faith and the depravity of man. Teach kids that God is the Creator and has made every person. Make sure they know that he delights in his creation and that Jesus died for every tribe and tongue and nation. The gospel is for all people. Make sure they know that because of sin, people do mean and evil things and that we all need a Savior. So, when our kids see the evil in this world, they will be grieved and sorrowful, but not surprised. 

Timothy Paul Jones: When your children witness such an event, the resulting conversation should be part of a dialogue that you began long before they heard that first racist comment or saw a news report that mentions race. In other words, our first conversations with our children about race should be proactive, not reactive. 

One word that I try to work into every conversation with my children about race and ethnicity is beauty. The Apostle John’s description of a glorious multitude from “every nation, tribe, people, and language” is embedded in a text that is filled with beauty and worship (Rev. 7:9). That’s where I want these conversations grounded. I don’t want my children merely to accept people from other races; I want them to seek and see the divinely embedded beauty in every ethnicity and hue of melanin. 

And so, my children hear some variation of this refrain repeatedly: “God made people in many colors and cultures, each one is beautiful, and the more we listen to each one, the better we understand our world.” That way, when they do see an expression of racism, I can say, “The reason we don’t use that word is because it doesn’t recognize the beauty of that person.” One of the best defenses against racism is recognizing beauty in those who are different from us instead of feeling discomfort or fear.

Erica Ho: Unless children are exposed to racism by adults in their life, they will likely be confused when they hear about race related discrimination. It is important to teach children about the history of our country and the horrific events that still fuel modern-day racism. They need to understand that sin leads people to hate their fellow man for something as simple as skin color. We must be careful to teach them to judge people by their character and not to presume upon racial stereotypes. 

LN: How would you advise parents to respond to a situation where their children make a comment about someone’s race? 

TN: Kids are kids and will likely say something like, “She’s brown, Mommy,” or, “Why does she have a dot on her forehead?” There’s no reason to be embarrassed. We need to make sure that we don’t make our kids feel like they’ve done something awful. Part of our own problem is that we think it’s strange to talk about culture, ethnicity, and our fear, which actually divides and alienates us further. Instead, you can simply say, “Yes, she is brown. I love how God made all of us with various colors,” or, “She wears a dot on her forehead because of the cultural traditions in her country.” Let’s take the weird out of it. Instead, we should teach and celebrate the differences.

TPJ: Children make comments about anything that seems different to them. If the shade of a stranger’s skin or the texture of someone’s hair seems out of the ordinary to a child, it’s not surprising that they will feel compelled to point that out. Don’t let your embarrassment drive your reaction to your child’s observation. Be prepared beforehand to say something like, “Yes, God made people in lots of different colors. That makes the world beautiful!” 

There’s another level to this as well: If your child sees their encounter as something strange, it would be worthwhile to ask yourself how you can broaden your palette of relationships. Does your family regularly interact with people from a variety of racial and socioeconomic backgrounds? If not, where and how will you develop these relationships?

One of the best defenses against racism is recognizing beauty in those who are different from us instead of feeling discomfort or fear.

EH: I think it’s important not to overreact when a child points out another person’s race. After all, ethnicity and culture are beautiful things to celebrate. If we can model this to our children, they will learn to speak about differences in a positive way and feel free to dialogue about race and society.

LN: What are some practical ways that you've helped your children engage with people of different ethnicities and cultures? 

TN: I’m at an advantage because our home is made up of two ethnicities—I am black, and my husband is white. But I believe it’s important for our kids to know about the beautiful diversity of God’s creation beyond black and white. So, for example, this summer my kids and I cooked dishes from various countries, listened to music, and learned about their history and culture. We also make sure to engage our neighbors who are from other backgrounds and countries.

TPJ: We have three children adopted from three different racial and ethnic backgrounds, so every meal in our household is a multiethnic event! And I serve as an elder at a church that is located in a diverse neighborhood. But I want my children to be exposed to more diversity than our household and church are able to provide. So, when we travel, we worship at churches where some or all of us are an ethnic minority. This has included a bilingual Hispanic church, a second-generation Korean church, and an African-American congregation. 

We are also intentional about visiting museums that focus on minority experiences. The National Civil Rights Museum in Memphis, the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute, the National Center for Civil and Human Rights in Atlanta, and the Negro Leagues Baseball Museum in Kansas City can all spark important family discussions about race, privilege, and systemic structures that prevent equal opportunities for advancement. I'm also looking forward to taking my family to the National Museum of African American History and Culture in Washington, D.C. 

Most importantly, nothing can take the place of developing deep relationships with persons from other races and ethnicities. Ask yourself honestly, "Does my family have friendships with people from other ethnic backgrounds that run so deep that these individuals are able to challenge prejudicial assumptions or attitudes in our lives?" If you aren’t certain, you probably don’t. Do everything you can to help your children see beauty in every race and place.

EH: We are a multicultural family, so this is a priority. There are great cultural festivals year-round that your family can attend. Spend time in a bigger city. Make friends that don't look like you. It's not difficult in today's globalized world to spend time with people that represent the nations, and our families will be enriched by this.

LN: What are some ways parents can mark off moments to talk about race? 

TN: I believe wholeheartedly that we should be learning about various cultures and people throughout the year. I love that we have a month designated to black history in the U.S., and yet I also cringe that we have to have a month like this. I want kids to be exposed to as many cultures as possible, not just the ones we celebrate during designated holidays—that’s too narrow. So, please use designated holidays, but don’t limit it to just dates. Every day is a good day to teach our children about others. 

TPJ: Start by choosing books from the library to read together during dates like Martin Luther King Jr. Day and Black History Month. A few of my favorites are Henry's Freedom Box by Ellen Levine, Moses by Carole Weatherford, Martin's Big Words by Doreen Rappaport, Robert Coles' The Story of Ruby Bridges and Sharon Wyeth's Something Beautiful.  

LN: What are some good resources in the discussion and ministry of racial reconciliation and unity?   

TN: I think that parents need to be equipped. For adults, I’d recommend starting with thefrontporch.org, resources at ERLC.com, and The Gospel & Racial Reconciliation, edited by Russell Moore and Andrew T. Walker.   

TPJ: For white Christians, one essential foundation for moving toward racial reconciliation is understanding the history and experiences of persons of color. You can begin developing an understanding of the African-American experience in America, both in the past and in the present, by reading books like Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by Beverly Daniel Tatum, A Stone of Hope by David Chappell, Michael Emerson's Divided by Faith and United: Captured by God’s Vision for Diversity by Trillia Newbell.  

EH: Some great books to share with your children are: The Story of Ruby Bridges, The Colors of Us, The Skin I'm In and Last Stop on Market Street.    

Additional Resources

God's Very Good Idea by Trillia Newbell  

This book will help children see how people from all ethnic and social backgrounds are valuable to God and how Jesus came to rescue all kinds of people. It will also excite them about being part of the church.  

Mother to Son: Letters to a Black Boy on Identity and Hope by Jasmine L. Holmes  

Jasmine Holmes shares a series of powerful letters to her young son. These are about her journey as an African-American Christian and what she wants her son to know as he grows and approaches the world as a black man.   

Divided by Faith: Evangelical Religion and the Problem of Race in America by Michael O. Emerson and Christian Smith  

Through a nationwide telephone survey of 2,000 people and an additional 200 face-to-face interviews, Michael O. Emerson and Christian Smith probed the grassroots of white evangelical America. They found that despite recent efforts by the movement's leaders to address the problem of racial discrimination, evangelicals themselves seem to be preserving America's racial chasm.   

The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America's Great Migration by Isabel Wilkerson  

From 1915 to 1970, this exodus of almost six million people changed the face of America. Wilkerson compares this epic migration to the migrations of other peoples in history. She interviewed more than a thousand people, and gained access to new data and official records, to write this definitive and vividly dramatic account of how these American journeys unfolded, altering our cities, our country, and ourselves.   

ColorFull: Celebrating the Colors God Gave Us by Dorena Williamson  

This book teaches children to see other people's color as something to celebrate and honors the truth that we all are made in the image of God (Gen. 1:27).  

Lindsay Nicolet

Lindsay Nicolet serves as the editorial director for the ERLC. She oversees the day-to-day management of all content and resources from the Nashville office. Lindsay completed her Master of Divinity at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. She is married to Justin and they have a daughter and a son. Read More by this Author

Article 12: The Future of AI

We affirm that AI will continue to be developed in ways that we cannot currently imagine or understand, including AI that will far surpass many human abilities. God alone has the power to create life, and no future advancements in AI will usurp Him as the Creator of life. The church has a unique role in proclaiming human dignity for all and calling for the humane use of AI in all aspects of society.

We deny that AI will make us more or less human, or that AI will ever obtain a coequal level of worth, dignity, or value to image-bearers. Future advancements in AI will not ultimately fulfill our longings for a perfect world. While we are not able to comprehend or know the future, we do not fear what is to come because we know that God is omniscient and that nothing we create will be able to thwart His redemptive plan for creation or to supplant humanity as His image-bearers.

Genesis 1; Isaiah 42:8; Romans 1:20-21; 5:2; Ephesians 1:4-6; 2 Timothy 1:7-9; Revelation 5:9-10

Article 11: Public Policy

We affirm that the fundamental purposes of government are to protect human beings from harm, punish those who do evil, uphold civil liberties, and to commend those who do good. The public has a role in shaping and crafting policies concerning the use of AI in society, and these decisions should not be left to those who develop these technologies or to governments to set norms.

We deny that AI should be used by governments, corporations, or any entity to infringe upon God-given human rights. AI, even in a highly advanced state, should never be delegated the governing authority that has been granted by an all-sovereign God to human beings alone. 

Romans 13:1-7; Acts 10:35; 1 Peter 2:13-14

Article 10: War

We affirm that the use of AI in warfare should be governed by love of neighbor and the principles of just war. The use of AI may mitigate the loss of human life, provide greater protection of non-combatants, and inform better policymaking. Any lethal action conducted or substantially enabled by AI must employ 5 human oversight or review. All defense-related AI applications, such as underlying data and decision-making processes, must be subject to continual review by legitimate authorities. When these systems are deployed, human agents bear full moral responsibility for any actions taken by the system.

We deny that human agency or moral culpability in war can be delegated to AI. No nation or group has the right to use AI to carry out genocide, terrorism, torture, or other war crimes.

Genesis 4:10; Isaiah 1:16-17; Psalm 37:28; Matthew 5:44; 22:37-39; Romans 13:4

Article 9: Security

We affirm that AI has legitimate applications in policing, intelligence, surveillance, investigation, and other uses supporting the government’s responsibility to respect human rights, to protect and preserve human life, and to pursue justice in a flourishing society.

We deny that AI should be employed for safety and security applications in ways that seek to dehumanize, depersonalize, or harm our fellow human beings. We condemn the use of AI to suppress free expression or other basic human rights granted by God to all human beings.

Romans 13:1-7; 1 Peter 2:13-14

Article 8: Data & Privacy

We affirm that privacy and personal property are intertwined individual rights and choices that should not be violated by governments, corporations, nation-states, and other groups, even in the pursuit of the common good. While God knows all things, it is neither wise nor obligatory to have every detail of one’s life open to society.

We deny the manipulative and coercive uses of data and AI in ways that are inconsistent with the love of God and love of neighbor. Data collection practices should conform to ethical guidelines that uphold the dignity of all people. We further deny that consent, even informed consent, although requisite, is the only necessary ethical standard for the collection, manipulation, or exploitation of personal data—individually or in the aggregate. AI should not be employed in ways that distort truth through the use of generative applications. Data should not be mishandled, misused, or abused for sinful purposes to reinforce bias, strengthen the powerful, or demean the weak.

Exodus 20:15, Psalm 147:5; Isaiah 40:13-14; Matthew 10:16 Galatians 6:2; Hebrews 4:12-13; 1 John 1:7 

Article 7: Work

We affirm that work is part of God’s plan for human beings participating in the cultivation and stewardship of creation. The divine pattern is one of labor and rest in healthy proportion to each other. Our view of work should not be confined to commercial activity; it must also include the many ways that human beings serve each other through their efforts. AI can be used in ways that aid our work or allow us to make fuller use of our gifts. The church has a Spirit-empowered responsibility to help care for those who lose jobs and to encourage individuals, communities, employers, and governments to find ways to invest in the development of human beings and continue making vocational contributions to our lives together.

We deny that human worth and dignity is reducible to an individual’s economic contributions to society alone. Humanity should not use AI and other technological innovations as a reason to move toward lives of pure leisure even if greater social wealth creates such possibilities.

Genesis 1:27; 2:5; 2:15; Isaiah 65:21-24; Romans 12:6-8; Ephesians 4:11-16

Article 6: Sexuality

We affirm the goodness of God’s design for human sexuality which prescribes the sexual union to be an exclusive relationship between a man and a woman in the lifelong covenant of marriage.

We deny that the pursuit of sexual pleasure is a justification for the development or use of AI, and we condemn the objectification of humans that results from employing AI for sexual purposes. AI should not intrude upon or substitute for the biblical expression of sexuality between a husband and wife according to God’s design for human marriage.

Genesis 1:26-29; 2:18-25; Matthew 5:27-30; 1 Thess 4:3-4

Article 5: Bias

We affirm that, as a tool created by humans, AI will be inherently subject to bias and that these biases must be accounted for, minimized, or removed through continual human oversight and discretion. AI should be designed and used in such ways that treat all human beings as having equal worth and dignity. AI should be utilized as a tool to identify and eliminate bias inherent in human decision-making.

We deny that AI should be designed or used in ways that violate the fundamental principle of human dignity for all people. Neither should AI be used in ways that reinforce or further any ideology or agenda, seeking to subjugate human autonomy under the power of the state.

Micah 6:8; John 13:34; Galatians 3:28-29; 5:13-14; Philippians 2:3-4; Romans 12:10

Article 4: Medicine

We affirm that AI-related advances in medical technologies are expressions of God’s common grace through and for people created in His image and that these advances will increase our capacity to provide enhanced medical diagnostics and therapeutic interventions as we seek to care for all people. These advances should be guided by basic principles of medical ethics, including beneficence, non-maleficence, autonomy, and justice, which are all consistent with the biblical principle of loving our neighbor.

We deny that death and disease—effects of the Fall—can ultimately be eradicated apart from Jesus Christ. Utilitarian applications regarding healthcare distribution should not override the dignity of human life. Fur- 3 thermore, we reject the materialist and consequentialist worldview that understands medical applications of AI as a means of improving, changing, or completing human beings.

Matthew 5:45; John 11:25-26; 1 Corinthians 15:55-57; Galatians 6:2; Philippians 2:4

Article 3: Relationship of AI & Humanity

We affirm the use of AI to inform and aid human reasoning and moral decision-making because it is a tool that excels at processing data and making determinations, which often mimics or exceeds human ability. While AI excels in data-based computation, technology is incapable of possessing the capacity for moral agency or responsibility.

We deny that humans can or should cede our moral accountability or responsibilities to any form of AI that will ever be created. Only humanity will be judged by God on the basis of our actions and that of the tools we create. While technology can be created with a moral use in view, it is not a moral agent. Humans alone bear the responsibility for moral decision making.

Romans 2:6-8; Galatians 5:19-21; 2 Peter 1:5-8; 1 John 2:1

Article 2: AI as Technology

We affirm that the development of AI is a demonstration of the unique creative abilities of human beings. When AI is employed in accordance with God’s moral will, it is an example of man’s obedience to the divine command to steward creation and to honor Him. We believe in innovation for the glory of God, the sake of human flourishing, and the love of neighbor. While we acknowledge the reality of the Fall and its consequences on human nature and human innovation, technology can be used in society to uphold human dignity. As a part of our God-given creative nature, human beings should develop and harness technology in ways that lead to greater flourishing and the alleviation of human suffering.

We deny that the use of AI is morally neutral. It is not worthy of man’s hope, worship, or love. Since the Lord Jesus alone can atone for sin and reconcile humanity to its Creator, technology such as AI cannot fulfill humanity’s ultimate needs. We further deny the goodness and benefit of any application of AI that devalues or degrades the dignity and worth of another human being. 

Genesis 2:25; Exodus 20:3; 31:1-11; Proverbs 16:4; Matthew 22:37-40; Romans 3:23

Article 1: Image of God

We affirm that God created each human being in His image with intrinsic and equal worth, dignity, and moral agency, distinct from all creation, and that humanity’s creativity is intended to reflect God’s creative pattern.

We deny that any part of creation, including any form of technology, should ever be used to usurp or subvert the dominion and stewardship which has been entrusted solely to humanity by God; nor should technology be assigned a level of human identity, worth, dignity, or moral agency.

Genesis 1:26-28; 5:1-2; Isaiah 43:6-7; Jeremiah 1:5; John 13:34; Colossians 1:16; 3:10; Ephesians 4:24